Taking Ownership of Your Life

     One of the hardest things to do is to stop blaming everyone else for your problems. Have you ever thought maybe it's your fault why you haven't been promoted? It's your fault why you're out of shape. It's your fault why you can't keep a job. It's your fault why you haven't graduated. It's your fault why your bank account is negative. As people we have a tendency to hold everyone else to the fire or a standard that we don't even follow. No matter what skin color, religion, gender, socio-economic status, place of birth life happens to everyone. It's so easy to point blame at others an not yourself. You need to put yourself on punishment an get to work on time, you need to give it your all the next time you get the oppurtunity you were praying on. Turn the television, games off an study. You need to stop making excuses for spending past what you're making. You have some control and you can change. You can change an unfulfilling job, school, relationship an friendship. However if you think something new will change your bad habits you're in for a surprise. Just as much you work on your selfie work on yourself. We live in a society where you can fake it until you make it. However many of us have been faking it so long we'll never make it. Until we start taking some accountability. Making better desecions an learning from our mistakes. Growth doesn't happen in comfort. Rember the amount of difficulty that small flower went through. The strength to grow from the dirt. The ability to persevere through different season. The struggle it took to grow it's pedals. Make this year better an keep going. There's someone who needs what you got inside of you an people depending on your success. Make the rest of your life the best years of your life.

10 Rules to money

A rich man can play broke forever, But a poor man can't play rich for long

As much as you want to party, be popular and stunt on everybody. Have the same urge to want to be disciplined, to say no sometimes when someone asks you to go out and you know you don't have it. Until you're where you're supposed to be at you have to priotize your needs from your wants. You have to stack up and then atcually go out. Too many people are just living for the weekends
 Focus on your future not just the cars, jewerly, people, condos
 However but a life where you can be comfortable enough to where you choose if you want to work or not. Just looking like you got it versus atcually accumulating the life you don't need a vacation from should be a goal.. A broke man can only play rich for so long until things begin to crash. However a broke man can play broke forever

If she smells stronger than your wifi, you need to log out before you get a virus

This is not to disrespect anyone. However this is an on going issue I feel many people are afraid to speak of. Like many young people I struggle with my ability to wait sometimes. Especially as a guy sometimes your small brain can out rule your large brain. As a straight heterosexual male I like woman a lot. To there curves to the way they walk and say my name. However we need to be more honest with our partners whether we're married or dating. I'm not advocating sex before marriage but let's be honest most people aren't waiting. Do you see all these baby showers where the baby is born out of wedlock and sometimes the man of the expected baby isn't even there. I doubt these women are just unexpectedly getting pregnant by thin air like Mary with a immaculate conception. Gentleman if you smell an ordor below the belt of this beautiful woman you have in bed gently and kindly use protection if you want some and can't wait. Or help the young lady by just asking if she checked down there recently because that may be a virus that you're smelling. Remember your health is more important than sex and being afraid if she gets mad and leaves. Don't connect your wifi into that connection. Log out that can be a virus into your computer. Ladies I know many of you try to stay clean, maintain a low body count and sometimes you even pleasure yourself. Don't be so in the heat of the moment you want to finally give him some and can't have self control to stop and ask him to use a condom. Your health is more important than that man's feelings. It's not worth all these diseases or viruses being spread. I understand why some ladies don't engage in premarital sex but many who are celibate usually have had unprotected sex before and may have a virus currently and are spreading it to there partner. Get checked and just because someone doesn't have a kid doesn't mean there clean. I have been checked but I too must be consistent and have the courage to say what I want, be protected at all times just in case if I fall short and work toward being able to wait and do it the old fashion way. I'm not condemning, judging, demeaning anyone. Everyone is different..some people masturbate, some have sex only in relationships and sone are celibate. Just protect yourself and remember your body is a temple. Your body is like a car and this vehicle will be the only one you get so take extra care of yourself, becareful and always try to protect it at all costs.

Is a car a good investment

Many of us do things to be the popular person not the succesful person. This generation has a big problem with looking rich instead of being rich. Many of us our stunting and shi###ng on the people we grew up with. Depending on the area the people there may call you a phuck boy or girl and want to rob, plot and kill you. It's okay to crawl before you walk and drive the old school car like an older model Toyota paid off. Instead many of us get a new car because it can display our value quicker then a new home can. Many of us our renting out places, behind mortgages, not helping if were still living with our parents, living in a expensive car and living a life just to be popular. Nothing wrong with working hard and spoiling yourself every blue moon like renting a car, leasing a car, leasing a home, renting a place temporarily and enjoying a day or two to yourself, saving enough for a vacation, eating out, partying and tricking. However if your need to impress others with materialistic stuff who don't probably even like you is greater than your priorities such as bills, education, your dreams, health, credit, etc you're hustling backwards. You're running on a treadmill and going no where fast like a hamster on a wheel or a rat race.You have to save more then you spend. A new car depreciates once it's driven off the lot. The car also needs maintenance, gas and insurance. Unless you're a crafty salesperson or have a great idea what a vehicle can do for a buisness to help you make money a new car before the purchase of a new home can be costly. Atleast a home appreciates and you can have equity to purchase more homes you can rent out a home or finish paying a mortgage. If you're at a job you don't like, don't see yourself becoming a manager there, paying you less then your worth you have to start focusing and working toward leaving that job for something better. Everyone starts somewhere, many rappers rap about starting with an ounce of drugs and are millions. I'm not advising you to sell drugs. The drug game is a trap and the majority of people in it either die early or in jail. However I'm advising you to do is once you get off the clock you need to be working toward your dreams, goals and self. It doesn't matter if you had to go back to living at your parents house or mopping a floor. Have a plan to work toward getting a salary that can afford for you to get a house then your dream car. You have too see your dream as a seed and water it everyday so one day it can take care of you and your family. Be the owner(lender) of a car not the renter(borrower). Lease to own and becareful of financing because just like the mortgage of a house. Until you have the deed of a house or the title of a car you're not the owner. The banks are owners and will charge you extra so you're stuck paying the interest of the loan, not what you atcually bought the item for. Focus on the ability to own and making money while you sleep unless you want to work forever. So start today by saving more than you spend and start investing into that dream as well as yourself. Remember a salary is just a bribe to forget about your dreams. Don't work 8 hours for somebody and not for yourself. Remember everyone starts somewhere but it's not where you start but where you finish. Catch your dreams...Dream Chaser

Why Strangers seem too support you more than your family, friends and people you may have grew up with

This isn't to bash anyone I may know personally but to discuss an issue I feel many people feel. Sometimes the most toxic, poisonous, dream killers, haters can be people you grew up with or are related too. I can tell you if that's the case, an something you may have faced don't give up and keep going. Use it as motivation and pray for them. You see people who grew up with you still remember you as that little kid that use to do weird things and make funny noises. They can't stop remembering the young person in that little room. Now that you're older they can remember the times you were struggling and going through the process of becoming of who you were born to be. Your growth and potential scare those who grew up with you because you can remind them of there shortcomings. People like it when you're doing good but never better than them. Strangers see your potential and can recognize your progress. Strangers are more adapt to help you and believe in your dreams. While people you grew up with seem to do the most toxic behaviors. Because you may recognize them of there failures. What I can tell you to do is not give up and know that the creator already has a plan and no matter what no one can stop what's for you. Keep pressing to the mark and know despite the feelings you may experience just remember everyone started somewhere. Even Barack Obama started as a volunteer in Chicago. Oprah Winfrey was fired from her first job and now owns her own television channel. Stay low come up and let your success make noise. Remember we're dream chasers they're dream killers. Despite what you may think use there negativity to push you toward your dreams. To the entrepreneurs, trailblazers, the ones who aren't afraid to do something different keep pushing.

The repeating cycle of broken people dating and creating more broken people

There are so many young people living in this current generation that aren't any different than there ancestors. For example, in hip hop today many young people have spoke there truth how the older generation never seem to give them the recognition. They tend to scold and bash whatever current trend is popular.It's as if our ancestors forget when they were young. It's as if they forgot how they felt about there parents. I'm not here to scold them back or even beef with them. I think we need to bridge the gap and stop a lot of the hurt and confusion within many of us. I think this is relevant because hip hop is just young people expressing themselves openly how they feel. Many of us don't feel we have a voice. Many of our parents had to struggle to make it and got hardened to life. The financial stress, the worry of what's going to happen next and there own shortcoming effects us. Furthermore, this leads to many older people argue that young people are unappreciative and don't understand the struggle they paved. That the younger generation should be thankful. Although I agree to an extent we have to understand that this current generation are a little bit more expressive in how we dress, how we act and how we choose to move in this world. Furthermore, we must understand how we learn from our parents and there parents. For example, a lot of us in minority population see many death rates and long jail sentences to young people. An individual whose 25 and older is considered an older head or an old G. Which stands for a mature adult which can be a problem because a person at 25 compared to an individual at 65 doesn't have there wisdom nor experience. Furthermore, many young people ended up raising themselves. Many of us don't have the knowledge, wisdom and understanding so a lot of young people end up in traps. We start believing that going in an out of jail like the older generation or getting in an out of gun fights makes us strong. People start believing that this is how it's and having children out of wedlock is normal. However we must remember the apple doesn't fall from the tree. These are generational curses and many of our fathers didn't have fathers in there lives. Many of our mothers were there raising the children by themselves and taught the younger generation to do things because that was the best they can do. Some of the stuff our ancestors did were for our survival in the past. However times have changed and if we don't adapt future generations will continue to end up broken, in poverty, in lack, in an out of prison, broken homes, etc.

Furthermore, when it comes to relationships many of us our confused. If you're lucky you witnessed a functional relationship. However for most of us we have to learn through trial and error because we never witnessed a stable relationship.  Most of our parents in this current generation are the statistics of the current divorce being more than 50% in North America. Not only did many of them leave, abuse drugs, abuse themselves and children. Furthermore, many of them who did stay together, only did it for the children. Many of us grew up in unloving environments where we were either constantly being scolded or yelled at. I'm not here to say I hate the older generation or my own parents who loved and sacrificed me dearly. In fact they developed a young man who can think for himself and endure the necessary struggles that come with living. However I think it must be said because many of us our in cycles of constant pain, struggle, regret and loss. Many of us our lost and confused. We're trying to numb the pain and neglect we felt as children. The same pain that stayed until we grew up. We're doing things to fill this void, to fill in the hurt, to try to understand why are we here. As we grew up and things continued to spiral in a downfall direction we started doing what are ancestors did. We used drugs, sex, money, alcohol, etc. I'm not saying the whole generation but collectively. Our ancestors would worship false idols, and many of us do today. Do you see how young people are so obsessed with certain material items. For example, people would shoot each other, rob there own neighbor, sacrifice there freedom, sell there soul just for some sneakers, a car, etc. Although money answerth all things are love for God's hands(His created items on earth) over God(The creator) is getting us in trouble. Many of us our using our tongues and speaking death. We're no longer using our tongues to heal and help people go in the right direction. Many of us our so selfish, vain that we feel if we help someone we might not get blessed. If we fix this individual our money that we get from them will stop. That can be seen in courts where the DA may not want to actually help there defendant because there worried if there free there will be no work. Furthermore, a social worker who sometimes does things to make sure there client never gets to high because there afraid they won't be able to pay there bills. We must grow from the possession of money using us and we're collectively using money.